Rough Draft beginning of "WHY?"

  There are reasons why this book is titled 'Fat Girl Refrigerator Mambo. Want to know what they are? Here we go! To best explain, I shall break the title down to its individual words and take them from left to right. This will not be a technically perfect explanation, but, it will be based on my feelings, when I created the painting that originally owned the title, and, what I am hoping to achieve with this book.

Fat: Fat is both very good and very bad, depending on which kind it is, how much there is, and what you do with it.

Plant fats are far better for you than meat fats, most times and under most circumstances. Adults generally should eat a diet lower in fat, but, children should never be put on the same sort of diet, because, they need enough fat to protect their brains and build their bodies. This does not mean you should feed them a high fat diet, though; just that you should give them more healthy fat than the RDA for an adult.

As I said, this is not a technically perfect explanation, so do not, please, run with that and add a heaping tsp of lard to every meal your children consume. Instead, find a book, doctor or internet source that will explain the more technical aspects of why children need fat, when and in what quality and quantity.

Omega-3 fats are supposed to be marvelously good for you. Omega-6 fats are supposed to be marvelously bad for you Yet , there have been studies done that have concluded that we actually need both kinds, and in a rational amount, so either too much or too little of either would be terribly bad for you and just enough would do you wonders.

“Eating of the fat of the land” is a saying that has pleasant, healthful connotations. When a land is “fat” that means it is gloriously, healthily abundant.

Therefore, fat is neither good nor bad. It is what you do with it, how often, when, why and in what quantity that counts! So, it is my belief that one should cease to hide behind euphemisms and outright lies, Those are word play for the ashamed.

Why be ashamed because you have fat upon your body? Everyone alive has fat, some people more than others. If you feel you have too much, acknowledge it, without shame, without apology, and let us see what can be done to change it.

If you feel you have just enough, if you feel health and happy and no health issues result from the fat you have, or do not have, then, why does it matter what others believe? Let them sneer or not, as they please. You have a large behind, perhaps, but, there is so much more to you, whereas, by picking on others, some people make their entire self over into a large behind.

Shame is not the key to change. In fact, shame tends to makesoft us do more of whatever put us into the position of feeling shamed in the first place. It is honest acceptance and understanding of both desire and ability that lead to positive life changes, for most.

If you are fat, say it. “I am fat!” Say it loudly, softly, matter-of-factly, sensually; in different acceents if you like! Do not say it with shame, hate or anger. It is not an insult.

Fat is not all you are, any more than “black” or “American” or “Lithuanian” are words that can sum up someone's entire existence. Yet, in all cases, they describe a facet of the person which colors their entire life, from whom loves them too much to who hates them too well, how they stand out in a crowd, up and what can make them feel good or bad about being in the swell of society in which they currently swim.

If you are fat, this is how you were purposely made to be, perhaps by nature, or perhaps by nurture. When I say nurture, by the way, I don't just mean how you were raised by parents or other adult guardians (or lack thereof). I mean by everything that made up your habitat. That could include how you were raised by your family, yes; but, it could also include the traumatic incident that happened on the way to school when you were six; or, the entire sum of your curricular ife; or, all the over-emphasis on women as sex objects in the media.

Fat is how you were made, because, either you should be fatter than some people or because you allowed yourself to become so, for your own reasons. Now, if you should be fatter than some people, that could be because you have mental, physical or emotional health issues that affect you and from which you need to heal or at least which you need relief from the symptoms of. If you chose to allow yourself to be fat, this could still be true. It could be equally true that you have chosen to seek out that in life which gives you more pleasure than other things, and, have done so to excess; and, that, your particular favorite pleasures are those which lead to having more fat than some people's pelasures do.

Whatever the case, there is no use denying that you are fat or feeling shame over the consequence of nature or purposeful action, or inaction, on your part. So, tell me that you are fat and we can move on to finding ways to either enhancing your natural state of being larger through good muscle tone and healthy eating, or altering the effects of having made poor choices at other times.

Girl: I believe all females are both women and girls. In most cases, they start out as more girl and move toward being more woman, as they age. The woman is the mature, responsible, down-to-earth part of our nature. The girl is the fun, frisky, care free, take life as it comes part. Too much or too little of either, just like with certain kinds of fat, can be bad for you; but, strike a balance and you become a force to be reckoned with, having all the joi de vivre of the girl and all the ability to get the trash out on time, and the bills paid, of the woman.

I use the word girl, instead of woman, in the title, for moe reasons than one. First of all, I believe that much of what goes wrong with one's body shape, as regards gaining fat, is due to a lack of exercising the maturity of a woman, so most fat women are really fat girls, who have not, yet, learned to take responsibility for, and enjoyment of, their own bodies. On the other side of that coin, most fat women are too mature, too wary, to make the changes needed, because, to get up and swim, run, dance, despite the sneering crowds, takes a child-like approach to play; and, all forms of exercise and food preparation, while they should be executed maturally and responsibly, should be playfully enjoyed.

Observe small children, or at least think back to some you have known. I mean SMALL children, who have yet to be warped by all the “yes” and “no” of society, and whom, as of yet, have no clue what size, color, or even sex they are as compared to others. These children are just themselves. What do they do?

I watch tiny children at the mall, sometimes. They tend to run, jump, play, cry, have a snack or drink when they feel it is needed, and interact with other children. None of them have I heard, as of yoet have I heard sneering at other children for having a bad haircut, the wrong body shape, a different skin color, being the wrong sex or for any other reason. Neither have I heard any apologizing for being themselves. They are unconscious as to their qualities, beyond the emotional and tend toward kindness to others more than shame of self. This is beautiful, and, it is what you were – most of you- and what you all need to learn to be to be a fat girl who is going to successfully become a happy, healthy girl.

Society will do its best to drag you down, and if you are fat, it will do it without compunction. The prejudice against fat people knows no boundaries. A person who is well tired of being called racial epitatths or deragatory sex terms, will see no harm in making fun of you for having more fat than they do, more often than not. In the case of women, this is far more true than it is for men; because, for some strange, contrary to nature, reason, many people have this belief that it is alright and more in keeping with their natural build for men to be a bit fat, but, that it is disgusting for women to be anything other than rail thin.

It is my personal belief that this is because an uber thin woman looks less threatening and less capable of “tying a man down” through child birth. She looks unnatural and unhealthy, unable to attack and unable to conceive through ill health and lack of body maturation. Whereas women that are fatter look fertile and able to defend themselves, which is why so many people view thin woman as dateable and, yet, fat woman are viewed as more for strict sexual pleasure.

Don't believe me? Take your safe filters off and Google up the words “thin women”. I just did, and the first thing that came up was 'Images for “thin women” . There is a photo of two women in bra and panties, or pershaps bikinis, standing together and it her like some kind of Before & After thing; a photo of a woman walking away from the camera, on a run way, wearing what appears to be a bikini; a photo of a woman turned to the side, wearing lingerie that covers her fairly decently; a photo of three women in tank top and panties; and, a woman turned to the side, wearing a bikini. Underneath these photos are links to '8 Secrets of the Naturally Slim – Prevention.com'; and 'Women Assume Overweight Women Sloppy', by the Huffington Post.

Now, do it with “fat women”. No images come up, in and of themselves, for me; but, immediately two links are there, which lead to photos, and the most prevalent photo is one of a celebrity in a pink top – who people say is Britney Spears, but, I don't know – which has been artifically enhanced to add sex appeal. She looks like she is at least 30 lbs heavie,r, maybe more like 50 lbs, and it is all fat roundness.

There are many comments about how wrong it is to make fun of fat women and how much sexier fat women are than thin women.

Below these, there are links to 'For the Record, Fat Women Totally Get Laid, ..”; Thte Truth About Fat Women and Self-Control ...”; and 'Fat Women Have More Sex – Asylum.com.

All articles, if you should run into them, I suggest you read, by the way. Especially, the middle one found under “fat women”, which says, in part:

“"People argue that being overweight is unhealthy. The research on this is not quite as cut and dried. Health is blood pressure, glucose level, heart rate, the ability to climb stairs," Smith said, measures that are often, but not always, connected to body fat. "Research has found that it's better to be fat and healthy than thin and unhealthy."

and

"We need to expand our idea of what beautiful is," she said. "People are suffering because we have a standard that is unattainable by most of us," and as we grow older, "eventually, by all of us."

Now, let's go straight to images and then videos of “thin women”. Oh, just a bunch of women in aundewear or clothes, under images. Under videos, two videos at the top, explaining how thin women and large men make more money. My personal theory: both appear more intimidating and manly and the world of work is still a man's world, indeed.

Now, on to “fat women”. The images are much the same as for “thin women” in great part; except that, interlaced among them, are many shockingly sexual photos of normal to extra large sized females in lingerie, showing their naye naye regions, doing odd things to male genitalia, etc. Don't dwell on it, just learn from it and move on. Or, take my word for it and thank me for having suffered the brunt of the ocular abuse.

I meant the ocular abuse of having witnessed pornography, by the by. The videos are mostly related to filming and making fun of fat women. However, you switch it to BBW, which is what fat women are mostly called, now'a'days, and it becoems immediately all pornoriffic on the videos and mostly pornoriffic on the images. The “everything” aisle is mosly about dating or defining BBW's, with a touch of insult at the bottom, and an endearing workshop for building bears.

So, thin women = seriousness, money and non-threatening manliness. Fat women = intimidating sexuality and a loose cannon approach to life. Like with women and girls, then, there are good points and bad to both sides of the coin, and a balance would be wonderful.